Oregon Wedding - Spanish/English with the Lasso and Arras.
Processional - with Organ music
You have to walk in. This can be a formal process with parents and attendants, or just the couple arriving at the front. Will your parents escort you in? Will J wait at the front with the officiant? Will F’s dad walk her down the aisle? Are there step-parents or parents of the heart who should be acknowledged in this process?
Minister: Queridos hermanos y hermanas, damas y caballeros nos hemos dado cita en este glorioso día con el sublime propósito de unir en santo matrimonio de la señorita, _F______ y al señor, ____J ___________.
Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of ___F________ and __J ______. You have come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow ____F_________and ___J_______ to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.
So welcome to one and all, who have traveled from near and far. ______F_________ and _____J_______ thank you for your presence here today, and now ask for your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.
1 Corinthians 13
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I Corintios 13: 4-7,
Tener amor es saber soportar; es ser bondadoso; es no tener envidia, ni ser presumido, ni orgullos, ni grosero, ni egoísta; es no enojarse ni guardar rencor; es no alegrarse de las injusticias, sino de la verdad. Tener amor es sufrirlo todo, creerlo todo, esperarlo todo, soportarlo todo. Tres cosas hay que son permanentes: la fe, la esperanza y el amor; pero la más importante de las tres es el amor.
Minister: J, Do you freely and without reservation intend to enter into this sacred bond, And with a clear eye and a full heart, to pledge yourself in honor, love and trust to this F as her companion for the journey of life?
J: “I Do”
Minister: F, Do you freely and without reservation intend to enter into this sacred bond, And with a clear eye and a full heart, to pledge yourself in honor, love and trust to this J as his companion for the journey of life?
F: “I Do”
Family blessing / Prayer, Words “About Marriage”
Minister: Two people in love do not live in isolation. Their love is a source of strength with which they may nourish not only each other but also the world around them. And in turn, we, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple. By our steadfast care, respect, and love, we can support their marriage and the new family they are creating today.
Will everyone please rise.
Officiant: Will you who are present here today, surround F and J in love, offering them the joys of your friendship, and supporting them in their marriage?
All: We will
Officiant You may be seated.
Blessing the Arras:
(The coins are presented to the officiant by a family member (Can this be a member of J’s family?) )
We will now bless the Arras, an old Spanish tradition. It is said to symbolize that J will be there to protect and provide for F, and F will be there to protect and provide for J. It also symbolizes that the couple share all their worldly possessions.– his wealth is her wealth, her wealth is his wealth.
The thirteen coins are sometimes said to stand for love, trust, commitment, respect, joy, happiness, harmony, wisdom, wholeness, nurturing, caring, cooperation, and peace – traits which the couple would want their marriage to be filled.
Dear God, Bless and sanctify this new family in your love. May these arras be a symbol of their mutual fidelity and help. We pray that they never forget the words “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Help them use their resources in service to their family, and the community, and those in need. This we pray in the name of all we hold holy. Amen.
(The officiant then hands them to the bride who places them in the groom's cupped hands. The coins are then placed on a tray or in the box and handed to an assistant to be held until later in the ceremony. ))
Aunt Carmen, representing the family, will now offer a prayer of blessing to F and J. Aunt Carmen - prayer
Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships. No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you two make to stand together as lifemates and partners.
We've come to the point of your ceremony where you're going to say your vows to one another. But before you do that, I ask you to remember that love – which is rooted in faith, trust, and acceptance - will be the foundation of an abiding and deepening relationship. By keeping the vows you take here today, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by another person fully, without limitation, your life will have joy and the home you establish will be a place in which you both will find the direction of your growth, your freedom, and your responsibility.
____F________ and ______J__________, God wants for you what you want for yourselves, because God’s love and the full creative power of the universe is here with you this moment, as you dedicate yourselves to one another.
Groom: I, J, take you, F to be my wife. I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and health through all the days of my life.
Bride: Yo, F, te quiero a ti, J como mi esposo y me entrego a ti, y prometo serte fiel en las alegrías y las penas, en la salud y en la enfermedad, todos los días de mi vida
At this the time __F_______and__J____ would like to symbolize their union with a Spanish wedding tradition called the Lazo Ceremony. ___F___and __J____ WILL BE BOUND BY______(name of person)_________________? "The lasso of rosary", symbolizes the inseparable nature of the newly married couple.
(A large loop of rosary beads is placed in a figure eight shape around the necks/shoulders of the couple. (Can this be done by a couple representing J’s side of the family/friends?))
Exchange of Rings
J puts ring on F’s finger “With this ring, I thee wed”
F puts ring on J’s finger “With this ring, I thee wed”
(The box and coins are given to the officiant who hands them to the groom.
The groom will then pour the coins into the bride's cupped hands, the bride pour the coins into the box which is held by both of them, symbolizing that they both share responsibility for their well-being as a couple.)
In exchanging these coins, __F_______and__J______ are essentially saying, LO MIO ES TUYO Y LO TUYO IS MIO, - What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine.” I bless these coins knowing that they are also symbolic of the unlimited good the universe has in store for this loving couple – unlimited love, joy, peace and prosperity. I accept this for ____F_____and__J______ and so it is, Amen.
“I now present to you the newly married couple ____F____ and ___J_______” (are either of you changing your names?)
Minister. “As a symbol of the commitment you have made before these witnesses and to one another, you may kiss your beloved”
The Lasso is removed by the officiant.
Recessional - organ music