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Hoping for a wedding that will reflect your best selves, incorporate your individual religious/spiritual leanings, and feel "real" to your older relatives, all at the same time? Let's get together to celebrate your love and commitment!

I will joyfully and reverently craft a wedding service with you that reflects the divine within each of you and respects the holy promises you will make. Also, we will laugh a lot.

I bring experience with earth centered ceremonies and wedding traditions from diverse heritages (Jewish, Celtic, Slovak, Muslim, etc.)
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Thinking about a wedding can be overwhelming. Having a minister there can take the pressure off, provide you with the wisdom of experience, and create a space that can bring the sacred to this blessed event. Each wedding is unique to the people creating it and the larger family that the ceremony acknowledges. We can create a ceremony from scratch or use a template or a combination of the two. In keeping with Unitarian Universalist tradition, I will aid in the creation of ceremonies that reflect the personal beliefs of the participants, and my own spiritual commitment to inclusivity and acceptance. Typically we will talk together 1-3 times in the weeks before the service. You will create the order of service based on the elements we choose and create. You may select or write your own vows. We will meet together 15 minutes before the service to become centered and have some private time. I will operate as a "master of ceremonies" throughout the service so that you do not need to think about logistics. I will check in with you after the service and leave while you and your family and friends experience the reception. A typical wedding runs 20 to 40 minutes.

I have experience with, and especially love, co-creating interfaith, “spiritual but not religious”, same-sex, and Earth-based ceremonies. I prefer gender neutral language. I can use many names for the sacred, including “Spirit of life” and "God".

If you would like to work with me on a wedding I'll need some information from you. I will interview you to discover what is important to you regarding family traditions, religious traditions, value, and intent. We will create a service that reflects love, delight, commitment, family, and solemnity. 

PLEASE provide me with the answers to the below questions! (feel free to e-mail to me, call me with the info, or provide it at our first meeting.)

ALSO review the fee structure (below).  

1. Primary Contact person 
a. names of the intendeds
b. preferred contact methods
c. cell phone number (of a friend or parent or wedding coordinator, in case of emergency)
d. Any wishes you are aware of regarding the ceremony
e. IF there is a Wedding Coordinator, please provide the name and contact information for that person

2. Wedding
a. location, incl. address and phone
b. ceremony time
c. date

3. Rehearsal
(or Walk-through before the ceremony)
a. location, incl. address and phone
b. time
c. date

4. What are the religious/Spiritual views of those who will be attending (for instance, is there a term or tradition that needs to be avoided such as the word "Christ" or the poetry of a particular poet? Or a ritual that needs to be included?)

5. Participation
a. Who will you invite to speak
b. Who will you invite to share music (if not professional)

6. Have you chosen additional elements, or hope to include them
a. Music?
b. Ritual?
c. Responsive reading?
d. Poetry?

Honoraria:
It is generally understood that rites of passage are offered freely to contributing members of a minister’s congregation. The following fees apply to non-members/contributors and to requests for service from those persons and congregations a minister does not contractually serve.
  • Flat fee: $400; with rehearsal $450; OR
  • Percentage: 10% of total wedding budget plus current IRS mileage allowance. 
    • A rehearsal is STRONGLY recommended!
    • Fees will be adjusted to stay consistent with UUMA recommendations
  • Discount for those who are booking at Oregon City's Unitarian Universalist congregation (Atkinson Memorial Church).
  • (UUMA minimum fees)

A 50% deposit is expected at the time of signing the letter of agreement. The remaining 50% is due at the rehearsal.

Includes your get-acquainted session, 2 other meetings for counseling or planning, email and telephone correspondence, all ceremony planning and creation, wedding day officiating (including legal paperwork if desired), ceremony planning resources, and a keepsake copy of your ceremony.

Additional pre-marital counseling available.

Inquire about lower fees  for 'generic' ceremonies, or special discounts.